¿Alguien te ha compartido que ha sido abusada(o)? No es fácil simplemente escuchar, pero eso es lo que más necesita una sobreviviente.
Ever wonder why domestic violence survivors don’t leave their abuser? Here’s one reason.
Oops, you hurt their feelings. Everyone makes mistakes in relationships, but…
Telling women how not to get raped isn’t prevention; it’s victim-blaming.
Without good jobs, survivors are faced with the choice of ‘staying’ or ‘having nowhere to go’.
Domestic violence survivors are the experts on their lives and their safety. Does that strike you as an odd thing to say? We think of the person doing harm as the one who doesn’t respect the survivor by continually undermining her decisions and questioning her judgement. But sometimes it’s hard for survivors to get respect from anyone, even the people whose job it is to help them.
Survivors are constantly weighing their actions and anticipating the reaction of the person causing them harm. They know what has worked in the past and what will work now to keep the violence and coercion to a minimum. No matter how messy or complicated it looks, survivors know what they need to protect their bodies and increase their safety and autonomy. Survivors don’t need outside experts to tell them how to survive. All we have to do is ask the survivor what she needs, then listen and follow instructions.
I grew up on the Pawcatuck River. It’s a short little thing as rivers go, dividing Rhode Island from Connecticut and flowing into the Atlantic. As children in the 60s, all of us kids were strictly forbidden from swimming in the river because our moms said it was polluted.
This prohibition, however, only prompted us to “accidentally fall in” as often as we could get away with it. For decades now, we have worked together to clean up our messes. Today, kids can swim in the Pawcatuck River. It seems a shame to go backwards on this now.
I was snorkeling over a reef with amazing fishes a few weeks ago. Hearing news of the gutting of the EPA and thinking back about my childhood water and air quality prompted a half-assed protest. When I was packing for vacation, I didn’t include waterproof protest sign materials. Still, I did my best to make a splash. SAVE the EPA.
This is so basic. The broad conversation on violence and relationships includes the violence we heap on our beloved mother earth. Our survival depends on resisting.
What ways are you finding to resist violence of all sorts and advance your values around peace and justice? Let’s see your best protest signs!
Wouldn’t it be great if every kid had an empowered Auntie in their life?