Sometimes, when I’ve been working on a particularly challenging project, I like to reward myself by watching a video from Urban Dance Camp . (Seriously, if you have not checked them out, do it now, I’ll wait.) That is how I came to love the dancing couple and choreographers Keone and Mari Madrid. So when I heard that they did Justin Bieber’s new video, I had to check it out. No surprise I loved the dancing but I was also struck by the lyrics. They are actually pretty wise.
Love Yourself lays out a pretty solid checklist of when you might consider walking away from a crappy relationship:
|For all the times that you rain on my parade||Not cool – you want your partner to throw you a parade, not rain on it!|
|My mama don’t like you and she likes everyone||When people who love and care about you don’t like your partner that may be something to listen to.|
|And when you told me that you hated my friends
The only problem was with you and not them
|Honestly if your partner doesn’t like your friends, they may not actually like the real you either. And why would you stay with someone who doesn’t like you or wants to keep you away from your friends?|
|And every time you told me my opinion was wrong
And tried to make me forget where I came from
|Having differences of opinions is fine, but telling someone they’re wrong or to forget their roots isn’t great.|
|For all the times that you made me feel small
I fell in love. Now I feel nothin’ at all
|Your partner should build you up, not break you down. No wonder you fell out of love!|
When your relationship makes you feel this way, it’s a pretty good idea to move on. And “you should go and love yourself” is a pretty good way to end things.
Way to go, Biebs!